- First, people should ask themselves, “Why am I doing this?”
- Second, it’s important to ask, “What story do I want to tell?” — in other words, think “ultimate rather than immediate.”
- Third, he advised asking, “Is there a tension that deserves my attention?”
- The fourth question believers should ask is: “What is the wise thing to do?”
— “In light of my past experience, what is the wise thing for me to do?
— In light of my current circumstances and state of mind, what is the wise thing for me to do?
— In light of my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing for me to do?”
- Finally, the pastor encouraged people to ask themselves, “What does love require of me?”
The A/R Chain is a online communication protocol to help groups deal with emotionally-charged situations when there isn’t a neutral moderator they all trust.
- Asker asks Responder:
- What are you seeing? (Perceptions)
- What are you feeling? (Reactions)
- What do you want/wish for? (Aspirations)
- Asker comments using “I like/I wonder”
- Responder elaborates (and Asker comments, etc.)
- Asker asks Responder: “Are you done?”
- When yes, Responder becomes the next Asker
The ultimate purpose and measure of mental, emotional, and spiritual health is a Harmonious Self, where each Part relates constructively to the Other.
The ultimate purpose and measure of political, economic, and cultural health is a similarly Harmonious Society.
The ultimate purpose and measure of parenting, education and religion is our ability to become Harmonious Selves who co-construct more Harmonious Societies. Read the rest of this entry »
Online Reconciliation Circles are a novel format for modeling constructive dialogue on difficult topics. The goal is to provide a safe place to explore better approaches to polarizing issues, starting with systemic racism.Read the rest of this entry »
America is facing a long-overdue reckoning with issues related to racism and inequity. Again. In fact, this seems to happen every fifty years or so:
- The American Revolution
- Jacksonian Democracy
- The American Civil War
- Women’s Suffrage
- Civil Rights
While there has certainly been progress, I have this ugly suspicion that the way we solved each crisis led directly to the next one. While numerous individual benefited from each of those reforms, there is a nagging sense that whole populations are still as disenfranchised as ever.
Can we do better? I believe so — but it won’t be easy. We remain trapped by the codependency between 18th-century ideologies, currently represented by capitalist conservatism and Marxist liberalism. We need a breakthrough vision of what a good society could be in order to guide our efforts in a more constructive direction.
Below is my first draft of such a vision, building on my earlier THS-IPA: A Game-Theoretic Model of Transformation. I welcome your feedback!Read the rest of this entry »
Pre-paying the “Crisis Mode Cost”
To prepare for times of danger, uncertainty, or extraordinary opportunity, we must cultivate these six habits of mind in order to win the future (#WTF) by bridging the gap between Snow’s two cultures.
Mnemonic: CriSys MoDe CoStRead the rest of this entry »
During our last session, Agnis asked for a practical illustration of how to apply THS-IPA game theory to transformation. I wanted to do a toy example, but he was hoping for a real-world scenario. I decide to compromise by doing a toy version of a real-world problem…
The Whos who live in the land of Seuss have a problem. Their economy consists of making Seats and Shoes from the hair of the Gerbulous Gerbil. Recently, some Whos suspect the Gerbil has been losing its hair. The Lorax claims it is because the Gerbil is overheating from being too fat, and thus needs more Exercise. Horton the Elephant doesn’t think the hair loss is real; but if it is, then it must be due to stress, which means the Gerbil needs more Rest.
Their debate is complicated by the fact that the Lorax runs the company that makes running Shoes, while Horton founded the one making Seats…Read the rest of this entry »
The Instigator-Population-Agents (IPA) model describes the dynamics of how an Instigator spreads behavior across a particular Population of Agents. While most commonly used for leaders attempting to transform a group of people, the model should also be applicable to individuals (via the society of mind interpretation), social animals, and even some computational systems.Read the rest of this entry »
Making of a Revolutionary Ruckus
April 1st, 2040 AD
By Ernest Prabhakar and Colin Keeler
INTRODUCTIONSRead the rest of this entry »
My whole understanding of discipleship, transformation, and myself was completely transformed by learning about Kegan’s Theory of Adult Development. It gave me a unified framework for thinking about personal, spiritual, and relational growth.
The core premise is that a) we define our identity by distinguishing what we “are” from what we “have”, and b) maturing is redefining something we “were” into something we merely “have.”
However, as I have been applying the theory to my self, parenting, and coaching practice, I realized that I might be able to extend it to be both simpler and more comprehensive. In particular, by marrying it with General Systems Theory (plus a dash of General Relativity, with a hint of Internal Family Systems), I find it useful for analyzing not just human, but also natural and computational systems!Read the rest of this entry »